Ladies, how much of this is true?

[Particle Man]

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

I think women can be trusted more to hang out with men because women can be friends with guys without being sexually attracted to them. Men are usually sexually attracted to their female friends. I didn't make this up....this was a man made statement.

we can't help it that we like boobs

[racedoll]

Originally Posted by defector

What exactly is controlling a relationship? Aren't relationships a 2 way street?Both parties can be completely happy without one or the other having "control".

Thank you!

Originally Posted by TIGGER

There is no such thing as an equal relationship. Someone always gives more/gets more. Someone always has the final say. That includes friendships, family, marriages, work, you name it. If you have two people with "equal" say and they want something different, how will it ever be resolved? Someone has to give in, usually the "weaker" partner.

It is a give and take. Like Chi says below, one time it might be 90/10 another might be 70/30.

Originally Posted by The Chi

Equal doesnt equate to 50/50 on everything. Some things will be 70/30 or 90/10 based on the compromises that couples make, that doesnt mean they arent equals and dont have the same rights as individuals in the relationship.

[Sean]

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

I think women can be trusted more to hang out with men because women can be friends with guys without being sexually attracted to them. Men are usually sexually attracted to their female friends. I didn't make this up....this was a man made statement.

I find girls insecurity generally renders them unable to be friends with guys. But hey what do I know?

[anthonyk]

Splitting everything 50/50 would be dumb. I didn't want to marry myself. There are plenty of things I do that my wife doesn't, and vice versa. Plenty of decisions that one of us makes, and the other doesn't. Equal doesn't mean we do the exact same things.

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by anthonyk

Splitting everything 50/50 would be dumb. I didn't want to marry myself. There are plenty of things I do that my wife doesn't, and vice versa. Plenty of decisions that one of us makes, and the other doesn't. Equal doesn't mean we do the exact same things.

Not to take over Homeslice's role as resident nit picker but equal does mean 50/50 guys... I'm just saying that all of your "70/30"s and "90/10"s rarely average out to be an honest 50/50. I'm not saying that you can't be "satisfied" with the level of disparity. I'm saying that there IS disparity and you know it. If you wipe away all this "we're equal partners" bullshit and look deep down, you'll see that no matter how slight the difference in authority is, SOMEONE has the final say in your relationships. Just because one partner doesn't "give a shit" about a certain aspect of your lives and delegates that responsibility to you, doesn't change the fact that you're the First Mate to his Captain...

[anthonyk]

Originally Posted by TIGGER

Not to take over Homeslice's role as resident nit picker but equal does mean 50/50 guys... I'm just saying that all of your "70/30"s and "90/10"s rarely average out to be an honest 50/50. I'm not saying that you can't be "satisfied" with the level of disparity. I'm saying that there IS disparity and you know it. If you wipe away all this "we're equal partners" bullshit and look deep down, you'll see that no matter how slight the difference in authority is, SOMEONE has the final say in your relationships. Just because one partner doesn't "give a shit" about a certain aspect of your lives and delegates that responsibility to you, doesn't change the fact that you're the First Mate to his Captain...

Leave the nitpicking to Homeslice. You're talking about splitting every single aspect of the relationship right down the middle as a requirement for "equal". I'm saying that would be boring as hell. My wife does/decides some stuff, I do/decide other stuff. Honestly, I've never pulled out the relationship accounting book to see who's ahead, but we both figure we're on equal footing. When one of us doesn't feel like it's equal anymore, we adjust.

Seriously, neither of us has the final say all the time. Some days it's me, some days it's her. You guys need to meet some better women.

[G-Rex]

Originally Posted by anthonyk

Leave the nitpicking to Homeslice. You're talking about splitting every single aspect of the relationship right down the middle as a requirement for "equal". I'm saying that would be boring as hell. My wife does/decides some stuff, I do/decide other stuff. Honestly, I've never pulled out the relationship accounting book to see who's ahead, but we both figure we're on equal footing. When one of us doesn't feel like it's equal anymore, we adjust.

Seriously, neither of us has the final say all the time. Some days it's me, some days it's her. You guys need to meet some better women.

What Anthony said.

I think Tigger has the biggest e-penis of anybody I've seen on the Internet. This whole thread has just made me laugh. I think what alot of people miss is that there is a huge difference between being *whipped* and respect.

There are things Carolina does. There are things I do. I've never kept *score* of who does what, and I know she doesn't either. People actually do that?

If you're keeping score, why bother being in a relationship? Seriously? I don't get that. If all you care about is quantifying who did what when and how much, get a cat. At least you know for a fact the cat won't be doing anything.

And for the record, I put the toilet seat down. Carolina has never once asked me to do so. It's just something I do.

[Homeslice]

Originally Posted by anthonyk

Leave the nitpicking to Homeslice.

Leave that shit to the experts.

[Tmall]

Am I an ass because I refuse to cover my girlfriends share?

She thinks she pays too much, and I say she doesn't pay enough. She works a lot, me not so much.

She says she tries to help out around the house, as do I.
And she uses my car and the only money I ever see for that is the occasional 20 in fuel.

She thinks this is unfair. Even though she doesn't even pay 2/5. And now she wants to pay even less, and I refuse.

I've told her, I can have a roomate who pays me more and then I don't have to worry about them at all. Thing is, she'd have to find her own place, and its hard to find a place for 600 all inclusive like she gets here.

What do you all think? Am I charging her top much?

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Tmall

Am I an ass because I refuse to cover my girlfriends share?

She thinks she pays too much, and I say she doesn't pay enough. She works a lot, me not so much.

She says she tries to help out around the house, as do I.
And she uses my car and the only money I ever see for that is the occasional 20 in fuel.

She thinks this is unfair. Even though she doesn't even pay 2/5. And now she wants to pay even less, and I refuse.

I've told her, I can have a roomate who pays me more and then I don't have to worry about them at all. Thing is, she'd have to find her own place, and its hard to find a place for 600 all inclusive like she gets here.

What do you all think? Am I charging her top much?

Well, my response is going to be predictable...but it depends on if you're willing to "compromise" that much. Personally, if you can afford it and you're willing to "pay" to have her around then it's all good. If you don't think that she is worth the expense, then go and find a girl that can either pay more to live there or that IS worth the extra money a month.

This is where the "equal partners" thing gets you. There was a time when men were more than happy to go to work and leave their SOs at home. Now we have an entire generation of women, not you girls apparently, that don't want to take care of the house alone and don't want to pay half either. I dumped a girl over this a few years ago. She thought that she could blow her money on whatever and I would cover the living expenses if she never actually moved ALL of her stuff in from her parents house. Plus my house would be a mess on top of it when I got home....Guess again. Now on the other hand, my last Michigan SO, got to pay much less than half because I decided that she was worth it. She kept the house clean, was fucking stupid hot and a porno star level FUCK!!!