I may be getting rid of a longtime friend - Page 2

'73 H1 Triple · 10-25-2009, 06:26 PM

Not really much to consider. He a cheat ( both to his wife and you ) and a lier.

Drop him and his psycho wife like a hot rock & don't look back.

Jeff

azoomm · 10-25-2009, 06:31 PM

Wow. Lots of words. It's almost like you have to convince yourself of the list of reasons why to run away. I've been there - it's sad, really. I mean - YOU have invested emotions, time and energy into the relationship that has failed.

That said, walk away. I wouldn't even bother explaining it - just walk away. Or, maybe punch him in the junk with a... "YOU KNOW WHY"

Amorok · 10-25-2009, 08:26 PM

Get rid of him. Think about it, if a girlfriends sucked half as much you'd dump her right away. This guy isn't contributing anything to you, and you aren't really helping him. Cut all ties, you'll be better off.

Evadd · 10-25-2009, 08:39 PM

everyone else said it. there's no saving someone like that. he clearly doesn't give a rat's ass about anyone. before you dump them both, though, go back over and undo the fixing to the water heater.

Captain Morgan · 10-25-2009, 09:17 PM

Wow, I told him how pissed I am and his response was:

"Is this going to affect pool league?"

Yeah, time to cut ties. I'm going to continue the pool league only because his dad is the team captain and I made a commitment to his dad that I'd play the whole season back when it started. I'm going to honor that commitment.

racedoll · 10-25-2009, 10:40 PM

Echoing what everyone else said about cutting all ties with this douche.

Amber Lamps · 10-25-2009, 10:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

Wow, I told him how pissed I am and his response was:

"Is this going to affect pool league?"

Yeah, time to cut ties. I'm going to continue the pool league only because his dad is the team captain and I made a commitment to his dad that I'd play the whole season back when it started. I'm going to honor that commitment.

Okay but going forward, cut ties with every non-essential tie to him. Treat this like any relationship breakup... and once he realizes how much you did for him and how much he misses the stuff you did for him (not you), do not take him back regardless of what he says or promises he makes!!!

HurricaneHeather · 10-25-2009, 11:25 PM

I've done it before and it really sucks. You don't realize how much they infected your life until you let go.

One thing I had to remember was that the only person whose happiness I am ultimately responsible for is MINE and mine alone.

Papa_Complex · 10-26-2009, 09:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

Some of this stuff didn't show up till about 2 or 3 years ago, but the majority has been in the last year. The cheating on the wife has been going on a long time. While I didn't like it, I didn't feel it was my place. The other stuff started happening slowly. I let things slide at first because we'd been friends for so long, but as you can see, things just keep getting worse. I think you all are right. Time to cut loose.

The moment that he decided to use you as an alibi, it was your place to comment.

Rider · 10-26-2009, 11:12 AM

Douchebag with a capital D. I usually put garbage to the curb at the first instance of douchebaggery. It's hard to let friends go but lets face it, he really isn't a friend.

10-25-2009, 06:31 PM	#12
azoomm moderator chick Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Hill Country TX Moto: Pasta Rockets Posts: 8,917	Wow. Lots of words. It's almost like you have to convince yourself of the list of reasons why to run away. I've been there - it's sad, really. I mean - YOU have invested emotions, time and energy into the relationship that has failed. That said, walk away. I wouldn't even bother explaining it - just walk away. Or, maybe punch him in the junk with a... "YOU KNOW WHY" __________________ We have enough youth. How about a fountain of "smart"? Come Play at the Track!! http://www.elitetrackdays.com

10-25-2009, 08:26 PM	#13
Amorok Issukangitok Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Biloxi, MS Moto: '06 Suzuki Boulevard C50T Posts: 2,225	Get rid of him. Think about it, if a girlfriends sucked half as much you'd dump her right away. This guy isn't contributing anything to you, and you aren't really helping him. Cut all ties, you'll be better off. __________________ What goes around comes around. Sometimes you get what's coming around, and sometimes you are what's coming around. You see what I mean?

10-25-2009, 06:26 PM	#11
'73 H1 Triple restorer of the original Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Zionsville,PA Moto: '93 ZR1100 &'73 Kawasaki H1 500 Posts: 1,331	Not really much to consider. He a cheat ( both to his wife and you ) and a lier. Drop him and his psycho wife like a hot rock & don't look back. Jeff

10-25-2009, 08:39 PM	#14
Evadd formerly known as tdah Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: SF Bay Area, CA Moto: 06 R1, 01 600R Posts: 110	everyone else said it. there's no saving someone like that. he clearly doesn't give a rat's ass about anyone. before you dump them both, though, go back over and undo the fixing to the water heater.

10-25-2009, 09:17 PM	#15
Captain Morgan Let's do another U-turn Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Moto: 2009 V-Strom Posts: 3,816	Wow, I told him how pissed I am and his response was: "Is this going to affect pool league?" Yeah, time to cut ties. I'm going to continue the pool league only because his dad is the team captain and I made a commitment to his dad that I'd play the whole season back when it started. I'm going to honor that commitment.

10-25-2009, 10:40 PM	#16
racedoll AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Moto: '04 Kawasaki ZX6RR Posts: 3,392	Echoing what everyone else said about cutting all ties with this douche.

10-25-2009, 11:25 PM	#18
HurricaneHeather AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Sydney Moto: '98 Honda Fireblade Posts: 3,696	I've done it before and it really sucks. You don't realize how much they infected your life until you let go. One thing I had to remember was that the only person whose happiness I am ultimately responsible for is MINE and mine alone.

10-26-2009, 11:12 AM	#20
Rider Moto GP Star Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 12,156	Douchebag with a capital D. I usually put garbage to the curb at the first instance of douchebaggery. It's hard to let friends go but lets face it, he really isn't a friend.