Child support laws need a serious overhaul - Page 2

azoomm · 03-08-2010, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

Going through that issue right now. My ex seems to think that she should have my daughter more than I do. Her reasoning...she has a bond with my daughter and it makes her feel bad if she doesn't have her a lot. I told her I'm not asking for more time than her, I'm just asking for 50/50. However, half is not fair to her. Fair would be if she has my daughter more than I have her. And fair would mean that I give up extra time so my ex has time to take my daughther to see her grandparents more often. It's fucking bullshit and nothing short of bullshit.

Ask the court for a Guardian ad litem. This would entail taking your daughter to a child therapist that would then testify to the court how the CHILD should be represented.

Usually they ask to see the child on a few occassions - once brought by each parent, then separately if other children are involved in the home(s).

My ex and I have shared custody. I don't like him [if I did we would probably still be married]. But, he is important my daughters. I wouldn't rob THEM of that.

Papa_Complex · 03-08-2010, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by azoomm

Ask the court for a Guardian ad litem. This would entail taking your daughter to a child therapist that would then testify to the court how the CHILD should be represented.

Usually they ask to see the child on a few occassions - once brought by each parent, then separately if other children are involved in the home(s).

My ex and I have shared custody. I don't like him [if I did we would probably still be married]. But, he is important my daughters. I wouldn't rob THEM of that.

That's excellent advice. Parents tend to forget what the child wants in these situations. Giving the child representation helps to keep both sides honest.

Captain Morgan · 03-08-2010, 10:19 PM

Thanks for the advice. Hopefully itn never has to come to that. I would hate to have my daughter be put in the middle at all. I'm just asking for half time with her. Yes, I want more than that, but I understand how important it is for her to have both parents in her life equally. Her mom does not seem to get that. Another one of her stupid ass arguments was that she spent more time with her mom, so my daughter should be able to spend more time with her. What the fuck kind of logic is that? She still has not given me a logical explanation why 50/50 is not fair.

azoomm · 03-08-2010, 10:26 PM

I'm telling you this so you can start that request now. This is how I kept my children out of a courtroom and away from lawyers and judges. No child should ever be put in front of parents and told to choose. This gives them a voice.

It also puts her in a position to prove why 50/50 won't work.

http://www.fathering.org/

TommyHotWheel · 03-08-2010, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Captain Morgan

edit: I was posting because numbers were crazy in calculations, but it appears the website fucked up and didn't input some things into the calculation.

However, I still think it's complete BS that a father who BEGS to have his child more often is simply told no, then told he has to pay more because he doesn't see the child often enough. It's like you get punished, then you get punished again for getting punished in the first place.

Dont get me started, Michigan is the worst.

Gas Man · 03-09-2010, 12:13 AM

I can attest to this... my good friend has major problems with michigan child courts... OMG.

101lifts2 · 03-09-2010, 12:56 AM

Didn't you listen when ur parents, friends, brothers and sisters told you DON'T GET MARRIED AND DON'T HAVE KIDS? I'm guessing not.

You have to live with your ignorance. lol

If you are going to get married, marry a chick that doesn't have legal citizenship here and barely speaks English. Or a chick that doesn't work....

Apoc · 03-09-2010, 06:31 AM

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Originally Posted by 101lifts2

Or a chick that doesn't work....

Ya, so you can pay a shit ton of alimony on top of child support.

Papa_Complex · 03-09-2010, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Apoc

Ya, so you can pay a shit ton of alimony on top of child support.

Like my friend with the Mexican wife, who after a few years decided that she wanted a Mexican boyfriend.

101lifts2 · 03-10-2010, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Apoc

Ya, so you can pay a shit ton of alimony on top of child support.

I should retort and say a chick with no skillz or education. If she can't do anything, I doubt she is going to be content on alimony.

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03-08-2010, 10:19 PM	#3
Captain Morgan Let's do another U-turn Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Moto: 2009 V-Strom Posts: 3,816	Thanks for the advice. Hopefully itn never has to come to that. I would hate to have my daughter be put in the middle at all. I'm just asking for half time with her. Yes, I want more than that, but I understand how important it is for her to have both parents in her life equally. Her mom does not seem to get that. Another one of her stupid ass arguments was that she spent more time with her mom, so my daughter should be able to spend more time with her. What the fuck kind of logic is that? She still has not given me a logical explanation why 50/50 is not fair.

03-08-2010, 10:26 PM	#4
azoomm moderator chick Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Hill Country TX Moto: Pasta Rockets Posts: 8,917	I'm telling you this so you can start that request now. This is how I kept my children out of a courtroom and away from lawyers and judges. No child should ever be put in front of parents and told to choose. This gives them a voice. It also puts her in a position to prove why 50/50 won't work. http://www.fathering.org/