Vasectomy.

[LeeNetworX]

Originally Posted by Apoc

Your not going to find a doctor who will do it anyway, as you have no kids and your wife isnt on board with it. I looked into it before, im glad I didnt get it done, it was a bad time in my life when i thought i would be better off without ever having kids.

But ya, forget it, at least till your mid thirties, a doctor isnt going to do it. Especially not behind your wifes back.

Hey Triple, take a drive up to my house and I'll do it with our garden snips for $250.

[Apoc]

oh, and this time i agree with you 100% triple, she knew you didnt want kids, and now she's trying to change you, i dont blame you for trying to prevent it.

but i still dont think a doc will do it.

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Apoc

Your not going to find a doctor who will do it anyway, as you have no kids and your wife isnt on board with it. I looked into it before, im glad I didnt get it done, it was a bad time in my life when i thought i would be better off without ever having kids.

But ya, forget it, at least till your mid thirties, a doctor isnt going to do it. Especially not behind your wifes back.

WRONG!!! Maybe not in Canada but I got fixed when I was in my early 20s with zero kids. I had to wait a few months but that's it. I also didn't have to "clear it with my wife beforehand". Hell, why does the doctor even need to know the guy is married for that matter? A woman can have an abortion in this country without informing or getting the permission of the father of the child. How is this any different? If I were you T, I'd pick up the phone tomorrow and check into all of your options. I was honestly responding to your "did she know" question in a joking manner but I'm very serious about protecting yourself. Good luck Bro!

[skiergirl]

I would def verify with Ins. You would think it would be covered since it's a one time procedure and less costly then children but birth control for women is NOT covered by Ins so I would say there is a chance this is not either. It is elective surgery after all.

Granted it's a 1 time fix-all and birth control for woman is an on-gong thing but most procedures for woman are not covered since they are elective.

[nhgunnut]

Mine was covered by my insurance. About 1/2 hour in the Dr office. Some discomfort nothing unbearable Suggest you get a bag of frozen peas. (they hold the cold beeter than ice cubes, have no corners and conform easily to the areas that need attention. )

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by skiergirl

I would def verify with Ins. You would think it would be covered since it's a one time procedure and less costly then children but birth control for women is NOT covered by Ins so I would say there is a chance this is not either. It is elective surgery after all.

Granted it's a 1 time fix-all and birth control for woman is an on-gong thing but most procedures for woman are not covered since they are elective.

Ah but the visits to the doctor are covered, just not the prescription. Hell, my girlfriend's just got her check-up/DEPO shot and it was completely covered. I'd imagine it depends on your insurance.

[HokieDNA01]

Originally Posted by skiergirl

I would def verify with Ins. You would think it would be covered since it's a one time procedure and less costly then children but birth control for women is NOT covered by Ins so I would say there is a chance this is not either. It is elective surgery after all.

Granted it's a 1 time fix-all and birth control for woman is an on-gong thing but most procedures for woman are not covered since they are elective.

My Birthcontrol has always been covered by insurance and I have had multiple insurance companies over the years.

I think it would also be kind of cruel to not tell her you are getting it done then make her think that you decided to have kids but you can't seem to get her pregnant (she will think it is her issue). I would be furious.

[Amber Lamps]

Originally Posted by Triple

Did she know you had it done?

Yea but it was a different situation from yours. My wife was "damaged" and supposedly couldn't have children without danger.

Anyway, if you want to be "sneaky" about it, I'm sure that you could have it done without her knowledge. It took maybe an hour start to finish. You could schedule it around your work. I was literally good to go after two or three days. There's always a lot of talk about choice when it comes to a woman's body. Well here's where we get to make a choice. If I were you, I'd get it done, not say anything and quit arguing with her on the subject. Heck a vasectomy could save your marriage! Hell, you can let her think that you're willing to let God decide whether or not you have children.

Quite frankly, you may be in danger of being ambushed with fatherhood here pretty soon. I've heard stories of women "forgetting" the pill, poking holes in condoms, getting men drunk, etc to get a baby when their clocks are going off. Women have looked me in the face and told me that " I'd change my mind about children if I had one". A lot of women seem to think that we'll be lovestruck and forget our misgivings if we're presented with fate accompli' ! You'd better get on the case with a quickness before it's too late!!! I guarantee there's a female somewhere telling her that "you'll come around" if she gets pregnant.

[the chi]

I think we've all heard the stories of the guy who was fixed, didnt tell the chick and she tried to blame it on him when she got pregnant. Im not in any way saying dont do it, sometimes I wish I could talk my hubby into to, Im just advocating being up front.

Trip, nice game man, I know A would hang you up by the balls if you tried that...

[Trip]

Originally Posted by The Chi

Trip, nice game man, I know A would hang you up by the balls if you tried that...

I want kids more than she does, so this isn't an issue for us.