Am I wrong for wanting to sign my daughter's report card?

Captain Morgan · 10-30-2010, 05:21 PM

My daughter's mother is refusing to let me sign my daughter's report card. She says she's already signed it. I told her that's fine, I want to sign it, too. She says no, and here's her reasoning:

As for signing, there is one line for a signature. You already signed the interim report and that was before I even got to see it.

I can't tell you how important it is for the mommy to get to sign the report cards. My mom always signed them. Dad always looked them over and made comments, but mom was the one that always signed them. Everyone I know always has them signed by Mom. It's a big deal. I don't know how to explain it. Why are you so adamant about signing something that you know means so much to me? Is it because you know I want to do it so badly and you are doing it to me mean or is it so you can show the school how involved you are and you think this is your way to prove it?

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So, am I wrong for wanting to sign the card, too? Or is she just nuts?

dubbs · 10-30-2010, 05:36 PM

I don't have a kid, so I can't speak from experience, but I don't really see the issue.

If there is only one line on the report card and she already signed it, so then why do you want to sign it too? It doesn't mean anything (as far as I can tell)

I kind of see her point, but her reasoning is a bit off.

azoomm · 10-30-2010, 05:55 PM

Why does it matter who signs it?

Papa_Complex · 10-30-2010, 05:56 PM

Fuck that noise. My father, as the "head of the house", always signed my report cards. I think that you're pushing a non issue, but hers is an emotional argument with no logic behind it. Now you SEEING the report card, prior to the signature being returned, is a different story.

Captain Morgan · 10-30-2010, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by azoomm

Why does it matter who signs it?

I think it should be signed by both of us. The signature line is underneath a "parent's pledge" to meet certain goals, etc. Since her mom and I aren't together and my daughter spends time with each of us during the week, I think we should both sign it.

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Originally Posted by Papa_Complex

Fuck that noise. My father, as the "head of the house", always signed my report cards. I think that you're pushing a non issue, but hers is an emotional argument with no logic behind it. Now you SEEING the report card, prior to the signature being returned, is a different story.

She won't even let me see the original card. She scanned it and e-mailed it to me, but that's it. And EVERY argument she's had about my daughter has been an emotional one with absolutely zero logic being used. It's ridiculous.

Mr Lefty · 10-30-2010, 06:24 PM

ehh I don't understand why it's a big deal for either of you to sign it... just as long as you both SEE it. The whole point is that you know how your kid is progressing in school... not who's mark is going to be left on your kid's transcripts...

again, I'm no parent... but I'd say fuck it... give the bitch what she wants... again... as long as you SEE it. Pick your battles...

tached1000rr · 10-30-2010, 06:30 PM

Of all battles to fight, this is one I'd skip, it's petty in my opinion. A power struggle with no gain at the end of it to even be worthwhile. A signature on a card does not show or prove how involved or committed to their child a parent is, not saying that is your intent.

derf · 10-30-2010, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by tached1000rr

Of all battles to fight, this is one I'd skip, it's petty in my opinion. A power struggle with no gain at the end of it to even be worthwhile. A signature on a card does not show or prove how involved or committed to their child a parent is, not saying that is your intent.

Agreed, I believe the mother did her part and sent you a copy. This seems like one of those things that you should let go. If anything print out the scanned copy, show it to your daughter, tell her you are proud and drop that in the school bag

pauldun170 · 10-30-2010, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by tached1000rr

Of all battles to fight, this is one I'd skip, it's petty in my opinion. A power struggle with no gain at the end of it to even be worthwhile. A signature on a card does not show or prove how involved or committed to their child a parent is, not saying that is your intent.

Homeslice · 10-30-2010, 07:18 PM

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Everyone I know always has them signed by Mom. It's a big deal.

How fucking stupid

10-30-2010, 05:21 PM	#1
Captain Morgan Let's do another U-turn Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Moto: 2009 V-Strom Posts: 3,816	Am I wrong for wanting to sign my daughter's report card? My daughter's mother is refusing to let me sign my daughter's report card. She says she's already signed it. I told her that's fine, I want to sign it, too. She says no, and here's her reasoning: As for signing, there is one line for a signature. You already signed the interim report and that was before I even got to see it. I can't tell you how important it is for the mommy to get to sign the report cards. My mom always signed them. Dad always looked them over and made comments, but mom was the one that always signed them. Everyone I know always has them signed by Mom. It's a big deal. I don't know how to explain it. Why are you so adamant about signing something that you know means so much to me? Is it because you know I want to do it so badly and you are doing it to me mean or is it so you can show the school how involved you are and you think this is your way to prove it? -------- So, am I wrong for wanting to sign the card, too? Or is she just nuts?

10-30-2010, 05:36 PM	#2
dubbs Multistrada Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Manorville, NY Posts: 652	I don't have a kid, so I can't speak from experience, but I don't really see the issue. If there is only one line on the report card and she already signed it, so then why do you want to sign it too? It doesn't mean anything (as far as I can tell) I kind of see her point, but her reasoning is a bit off. __________________ Sportbike - 2013 Ducati Multistrada S Touring - Red Luxury Car - 2013 Cadillac ATS 2.0 Turbo - Black Weekend Car - 2003 Honda S2000 - Black Daily Driver - 2011 Toyota Prius - Black Beater - 2005 Honda Civic Hybrid - Dust Colored

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Papa_Complex Nomadic Tribesman Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Brampton, Canada Moto: '09 ER-6n Posts: 11,150	Fuck that noise. My father, as the "head of the house", always signed my report cards. I think that you're pushing a non issue, but hers is an emotional argument with no logic behind it. Now you SEEING the report card, prior to the signature being returned, is a different story. __________________ "Everything's better with pirates." - Lodge, "Dorkness Rising" http://www.morallyambiguous.net/

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azoomm moderator chick Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Hill Country TX Moto: Pasta Rockets Posts: 8,917	Why does it matter who signs it?

10-30-2010, 06:24 PM	#6
Mr Lefty TWFix Legend Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Denver CO Moto: 01 BMW F650GS Dakar Posts: 15,677	ehh I don't understand why it's a big deal for either of you to sign it... just as long as you both SEE it. The whole point is that you know how your kid is progressing in school... not who's mark is going to be left on your kid's transcripts... again, I'm no parent... but I'd say fuck it... give the bitch what she wants... again... as long as you SEE it. Pick your battles...

10-30-2010, 06:30 PM	#7
tached1000rr WERA White Plate Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: NC Moto: 2009 GSXR 1300 Posts: 2,448	Of all battles to fight, this is one I'd skip, it's petty in my opinion. A power struggle with no gain at the end of it to even be worthwhile. A signature on a card does not show or prove how involved or committed to their child a parent is, not saying that is your intent.