Horrible Day :(

[Mistress Maygin]

Sorry, I just really need to vent about this. Today has been horrible.

The boyfriend and I have been having issues lately and yesterday it all came to a head. He blamed me for his having seizures and ruining his birthday (apparently because of something I did in my sleep?) and basically called me every name in the book attempting to make me feel like shit.

Today I found out that he decided to talk shit to some of my oldest friends, who have thus turned on me as a result.

I came home today and started to put my things in the other room. He informed me that as I am a psychotic whore, he had me taken off the lease and to have my things out of the house immediately. He has no problem with me living on the street, calling me a whore, and ruining my friendships, but still claims he loves me?!?!

I'm sitting in my living room crying to my mom and one of my best friends (who is thankfully letting me stay at his house until I can find a place). I'm afraid to leave my things because I know he will try to destroy or steal them. But I can't stay here, I don't feel safe. He intentionally left his guns sitting on the chairs in the living room, my guess is so I feel intimidated.

My mom is coming over and we are going to call the cops so they can take an inventory of my belongings to be sure that he doesn't do anything stupid. I never thought that it would come to this. It's sad to think this person may even be worse than the abusive guy I was with. He has absolutely lost his shit. He hasn't hit me, but I wouldn't put it past him. He keeps screaming at me, standing two inches from me and refuses to back up when I tell him to. And he blocks my way in and out of rooms. It's very threatening.

I have way too much stuff to just pack up and leave tonight. It feels so dramatic to call the cops, but I know it's the only way to make sure my things are safe. I'm worried about Monty. Taking him means leaving a lot of other things behind, but I have to do it. My mom is letting Monty stay at her house for now, which is good if I can't have him at my friend's.

I feel dizzy and nauseated. I don't know what I did to deserve any of this. I'm such a failure at life and relationships. If it weren't for the fact that I have a great job and wonderful friends (the real ones), I would feel pretty darn helpless right now. I'm honestly surprised this hasn't sent me into a bipolar episode. But I don't kid myself, I'm sure one is lurking.

I'm so.... disappointed in this entire situation. I apologize for using this board to vent. Please don't use this as an opportunity to bash me, but if you have any constructive comments they are all much appreciated. Like if anyone in the South Florida area knows of inexpensive, decent apartments I can take a look at.... Or if anyone else has had to deal with this sort of thing before and has some helpful advice?

Oh, and to make it bike related: Due to my having to leave and find a place ASAP that will cost at least 5 times more than what I pay now, my getting a bike will likely be delayed

[DLIT]

Wht was he calling you a whore? What caused him to go off on you? Was he assuming something, like you cheating on him or something?

[TATER]

hope all turns out well... it is better in the long run for u to get out now... it could be worse I married my trainwreck of an ex wife and will pay for that my whole life... be safe..

[Mistress Maygin]

Originally Posted by DLIT

Wht was he calling you a whore? What caused him to go off on you? Was he assuming something, like you cheating on him or something?

My guess is that he decided to use everything he knew that bothered me against me. He knows it pisses me off when people call me a whore, or assume I'm unfaithful, because I would never do that. no matter how unhappy I am. So he tells me I've been sucking lots of dick and fucking my ex (um, no). And also goes around telling me that ALL of my friends had been warning him I was a psychotic bitch. He only knows ONE of my friends, so I know it's all BS.

Originally Posted by VatorMan

Why do women always date assholes and then wonder why the guy is well.....AN ASSHOLE.

Choose your next partner wisely.

That's the problem. He wasn't an asshole in the beginning. I stopped dating assholes, that's how I got sucked into this one. He was all nice and romantic, etc. Turns out he is a friggin' sycophant. I tried to tell him that I didn't like someone who just yes'd me to death, and to have a spine and his own opinions and he flipped his shit.

The biggest issue I had with him before that was that he smothered me and didn't make me laugh. He was a bit of a moron, too, I came to learn. I can't be with someone who doesn't challenge me intellectually. He was just intellectually challenged.

Originally Posted by Rider

Just break down and finally fuck your boyfriend. Being celibate isn't all its cracked up to be..

I did sleep with him. It just sucked so bad I eventually stopped.

Originally Posted by fnfalman

MistressMaygin,

The only constructive thing I can say is that learn from your lessons and don't shack up with any dudes. Live at your own place. That way if shits like this happen, you can wave bye-bye.

Before I met him and things seemed to work out between us, my original intention was to get my own place. I'm just going back to that. I'm not "shacking up" with any dudes.

Originally Posted by itgirl25

so you went from a physically abusive guy to a verbally abusive guy? as stated above, you need to not date for a bit and take time to realize that you deserve much better than that. but definately get out! that isn't love, no matter what he says. i wish you the best.

Well, I've dated other guys in between. LOL. I was just comparing him to the abusive one.

I am friends with almost all of my exes. The only exception being the abusive one and now this one.

He is friends with none of his exes. I think that says something. I still talk to a few of mine on a regular basis and still hang out. My one friend even said to not bother blaming myself. He has seen how this guy acts around me, and was like, "Even at your worst, when we were together, you never did anything that would provoke a fraction of what he's doing."

[OneSickPsycho]

Originally Posted by drewpy

i have lived with pc on and off for almost three years, either we are with each other 24/7 or three states away, i must say i perfer it when im with her then when im seperated by a hundreds miles
atleast im house broken

I'm not so sure about that one...

[Cutty72]

Hope it all works out for the best for ya!

[VatorMan]

OK-I'll give you the benefit of a doubt. Sounds like a shitty way to start a day. I hope when you go to sleep tonight you have a brighter look on the future.

Life can be a bitch-glad you didn't marry one.

[Cutty72]

If you do decide to let them stay, and you move out, be sure to get your name taken off the lease... otherwise you could get fucked in the long run.

[M1$3|2]

Sounds like he is the psychotic one and needs to chill out. Your situation definitely sucks but like tater said I guess it's better that this happened now rather than a couple of years from now.

[DLIT]

I say you pistol whip him with his own gun. HILARIOUS.