Soldier mom refuses deployment to care for baby

[CrazyKell]

What if she's a widow?

Would any of the views change?

No, that'd be too easy. Let's all rag on her for being a single mom because obviously single moms are terrible slutty whores who are too stupid to use birth control.

Something is fishy about her story. But as usual, the naysayers want to put her down and get on their soap box about whatever it is they get on their soap box about.

I don't know what happened....but she obviously isn't telling the whole truth here.

[the chi]

Originally Posted by CrazyKell

What if she's a widow?

Would any of the views change?

No, that'd be too easy. Let's all rag on her for being a single mom because obviously single moms are terrible slutty whores who are too stupid to use birth control.

Something is fishy about her story. But as usual, the naysayers want to put her down and get on their soap box about whatever it is they get on their soap box about.

I don't know what happened....but she obviously isn't telling the whole truth here.

Good point. As far as my opinion, nope, it sure wouldnt.

If she was a widow she would have the opportunity for counseling and given briefings educating her about her options and what she could expect as far as deploying. Unless somethings changed, they typically do that for single moms and married moms and dads anyway. Having a baby? Go to a brief. Learn about whats available to you as far as child care and what to do in the event of deployments.

We had a million breifings about moving 3.5 hours aways for heavens sake, the military provides so many different options and ways to do some things its retarded.

[Cutty72]

things with her "knowing better" and her moms timing being convenient

- she's a 21 y/o E4. E4's are dumb, it's just how they are. They haven't had the time and experience to figure it all out yet.
Also, 21 y/o's are dumb... again, they haven't figured it out yet.

-parents don't always realise how things work in the military. Also, some don't care.

Not saying what she did was right... but she went about things the wrong way, from the story we are able to read.

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by The Chi

We had a million breifings about moving 3.5 hours aways for heavens sake, the military provides so many different options and ways to do some things its retarded.

This is what I assumed so something about "her" story doesn't add up here.

Originally Posted by Cutty72

Not saying what she did was right... but she went about things the wrong way, from the story we are able to read.

Exactly....lots of holes in this story right now.

[fnfalman]

Originally Posted by Cutty72

things with her "knowing better" and her moms timing being convenient

- she's a 21 y/o E4. E4's are dumb, it's just how they are. They haven't had the time and experience to figure it all out yet.
Also, 21 y/o's are dumb... again, they haven't figured it out yet.

-parents don't always realise how things work in the military. Also, some don't care.

Not saying what she did was right... but she went about things the wrong way, from the story we are able to read.

E-4s are not that dumb. If anything, lower enlisted are the worst guardhouse lawyers.

Anyway, if Uncle Sam were to want for you to have a family, he would have issued you one.

I missed the days where only officers and senior NCOs can get married and establish families.

[Smittie61984]

Originally Posted by fnfalman

I missed the days where only officers and senior NCOs can get married and establish families.

That's what my dad did. He was an E7 (and married) I believe before they had me. My mother was in the military too but she let her contract run out (8 years) so she could have a family. Even when my dad was a CMSGT he had to travel months at a time which left our care up to my mother. A single military parent (especially a low ranking one) is just a terrible idea.

This is also a prime example of why women don't make as much as men in the work force.

[wildchild]

Originally Posted by CrazyKell

What if she's a widow?

Would any of the views change?

No, that'd be too easy. Let's all rag on her for being a single mom because obviously single moms are terrible slutty whores who are too stupid to use birth control.

Something is fishy about her story. But as usual, the naysayers want to put her down and get on their soap box about whatever it is they get on their soap box about.

I don't know what happened....but she obviously isn't telling the whole truth here.

this is not about "oh the poor single mom" this is a soldier who signed up to perform a certain duty. they have very strict rules about single parents in the military. this is not "oh poor girl" this is someone who for all intents and purposes is AWOL from her duty station. whether or not you believe in the war it is her job, she is paid to do it.
what if it was a 22 yr old guy who didn't want to miss his girlfriend should he be allowed to stay home as well? why not? double standard? no one likes the thought of deploying but when you accept the paychecks you accept the possibility you may have to actually do your job at some point.
she should either be shipped out immed or jailed for AWOL during war.

[CrazyKell]

Originally Posted by wildchild

this is not about "oh the poor single mom" this is a soldier who signed up to perform a certain duty. they have very strict rules about single parents in the military. this is not "oh poor girl" this is someone who for all intents and purposes is AWOL from her duty station. whether or not you believe in the war it is her job, she is paid to do it.
what if it was a 22 yr old guy who didn't want to miss his girlfriend should he be allowed to stay home as well? why not? double standard? no one likes the thought of deploying but when you accept the paychecks you accept the possibility you may have to actually do your job at some point.
she should either be shipped out immed or jailed for AWOL during war.

Missing your girlfriend and having a child to care for are hardly comparable.

I do not think she is in the right...I just think there is a whole lot missing to this story.

The insinuation that she's dumb for getting pregnant...etc. etc.....is the attitude I was talking about. Where is the father?

[Rider]

Originally Posted by CrazyKell

Missing your girlfriend and having a child to care for are hardly comparable.

I do not think she is in the right...I just think there is a whole lot missing to this story.

The insinuation that she's dumb for getting pregnant...etc. etc.....is the attitude I was talking about. Where is the father?

Doesn't matter, she choseto have a baby and babies don't go well with military life. Pick one or the other but you can't do both alone(ie.. no father around).

[the chi]

Originally Posted by Rider

Doesn't matter, she choseto have a baby and babies don't go well with military life. Pick one or the other but you can't do both alone(ie.. no father around).

Enh, that I cant agree with babe. It can be done, but it does require planning and preparation.

I've got a friend, in the military, just divorced and found out after that she's expecting. She's planning and she'll be fine. She however wouldnt fail to meet her obligations and deploy if necessary.